Valentine's Day When You're Single (how not to hate it)
IT'S VDAY, BABYYYY!! I love Valentine's Day. Funny because I've never spent Valentine's Day in a relationship. But I still love it – I love it all. I love how cheesy it is, how chocolate is on sale the day after, but most importantly I love it because I LOVE love.
I used to see Valentine's Day as this day every single year that just reminded me of how single I am. But then a few years back, I decided to use it as a day to feel empowered and to celebrate the love I have for myself and the people around me. One year, I bought my parents' cupcakes. And for the past few years, I've used February 14th as a day to indulge in everything self-care related. It's a day about ME and about feeling good and exploding with so much love.
Don't have a Valentine this year? No worries!
Valentine's Day Check-List
- Buy yourself flowers; don't like flowers? Get yourself some chocolates or a new print to hang up on the wall. Buy yourself something small that you wouldn't normally get but that makes you feel really good
- Take a few extra moments getting ready – do a face mask in the morning, wear the skirt that makes you feel like a supermodel. I always dress up on Valentine's Day and I strut around town #feelinmyself
- Book a brunch or dinner or a simple coffee date with your friends. Single or not, there's still so much love in our lives! Valentine's Day isn't strictly reserved for romantic relationships.
- Stop and smell the roses – slow DOWN. Savor each moment, bask in the sun or take a few moments to really enjoy your food. I find that when I'm rushing through my day, I feel frantic and closed off to the world. When I slow down, I am able to focus on what matters and for some reason, I feel more regal when I am walking through my day at a relaxed pace. (Try embodying a princess? Let's play make-believe!)
- Write down all the things you love about yourself. I do feel left out because I'm single on Valentine's Day but when I start to doubt my own self-worth, I stop right in my tracks and reframe my thinking.
Being single is not about lacking something or not being whole. There is no shame in it. For all of my relationship people, the list above still pertains to you! Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to forget about cultivating the love for yourself.
Personally, I think there should be a day reserved every month to check-in with yourself and feeling good and focusing on love. But for now, Valentine's Day and our birthdays will have to be our yearly reminders.
Happy Valentine's Day, lovers. I love YOU.
